15 Things You Should
Give Up For Happier Life
This
is indeed a brilliant article and needs to be read again and again ...
Here
is a list of 15 things, which, if you give up on them, will make your life a
lot easier and you'll feel much, much happier. We hold on to so many things
that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering and instead of letting
them all go and allowing ourselves to be stress-free and happy, we cling on to
them.
Well,
not anymore. Starting today, we will give up on all those things that no longer
serve us, and we will embrace change. Ready? Here we go!
1.
Give up your need to always be right.-- There are so many of us who can't stand
the idea of being wrong wanting to always be right even at the risk of ending
great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain for us and for
others. It's just not worth it. Whenever you feel the 'urgent' need to jump
into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question:
'Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?' What difference will that
make? Is your ego really that big?
2.
Give up your need for control.-- Be willing to give up your need to always
control everything that happens to you and around you situations, events,
people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, co-workers, or just strangers you
meet on the street just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be
just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel. 'By
letting it go, it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But
when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.'
3.
Give up on blame.-- Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or
don't have, for what you feel or don't feel. Stop giving your powers away and
start taking responsibility for your life.
4.
Give up your self-defeating self-talk. Oh my. --How many people are hurting
themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating
Mindset? Don't believe everything that your mind is telling you especially if
it's negative and self-defeating. You are better than that. 'The mind is a
superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very
destructive.'
5.
Give up your limiting beliefs about what you can or cannot do, about what is
possible or impossible. --From now on, you are no longer going to allow your
limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and
fly! 'A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the
mind.'
6.
Give up complaining.-- Give up your constant need to complain about those many,
many, many things people, situations and events that make you unhappy, sad and
depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy; no situation can make you sad or
miserable unless you allow it to. It's not the situation that triggers those
feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the
power of positive thinking.
7.
Give up the luxury of criticism.-- Give up your need to criticize things,
events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are
all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we
all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us
all.
8.
Give up your need to impress others.-- Stop trying so hard to be something that
you're not just to make others like you. It doesn't work this way. The moment
you stop trying so hard to be something that you're not, the moment you take of
all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find
people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.
9.
Give up your resistance to change.-- Change is good. Change will help you move
from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the
lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change don't resist it.
'Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were
only walls.'
10.
Give up labels.-- Stop labelling the things, people or events that you don't
understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by
little. Minds only work when open. The highest form of ignorance is when you
reject something you don't know anything about.'
11.
Give up on your fears.-- Fear is just an illusion, it doesn't exist you created
it. It's all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into
place. 'The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.'
12.
Give up your excuses.-- A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many
excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our
lives, we get stuck and lie to ourselves, using all kind of excuses that 99.9%
of the time, are not even real.
13.
Give up the past.-- I know, I know. This one's hard. Especially when the past
looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening. But,
you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you
have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for the past that
you are now dreaming about was ignored by you when it was present. Stop
deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all,
life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future,
prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.
14.
Give up attachment. --This is a concept that, for most of us, is so hard to
grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too (it still is), but it's not
impossible. You get better and better at it with time and practice. The moment
you detach yourself from all things (and that doesn't mean you give up your
love for them because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another.
Attachment comes from a place of fear, while love well, real love is pure,
kind, and selfless; where there is love there can't be fear, and because of
that, attachment and love cannot co-exist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant,
so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to
understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.
15.
Give up living your life to other people's expectations.--Way too many people
are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according
to what others think is best for them; they live their lives according to what
their parents think is best for them; to what their friends, their enemies and
their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They
ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing
everybody, with living up to other people's expectations, that they lose
control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want,
what they need and eventually, they forget about themselves. You have one life
this one right now you must live it, own it, and especially don't let other
people's opinions distract you from your path.
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