Beautifully said
(Men
& women, sons & daughters - need to read this!)
BEING A MOTHER...
After
17 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and
a movie. She said, 'I love you, but I know this other woman loves you and would
love to spend some time with you.'
The
other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my MOTHER, who has been alone
for 20 years, but the demands of my work and my two boys had made it possible
to visit her only occasionally.
That
night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie.
'What's
wrong, aren't you well,' she asked?
My
mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise
invitation is a sign of bad news.
'I
thought it would be pleasant to spend some time with you,' I responded.
'Just
the two of us.' She thought about it for a moment, and then said, ‘I would like
that very much.'
That
Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I
arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our
date. She waited in the door. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress
that she had worn to celebrate her last birthday on November 19th.
She
smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel's. 'I told my friends that I
was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed,' she said, as she got
into that new white van. 'They can't wait to hear about our date'.
We
went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My
mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to
read the menu. Her eyes could only read large print. Half way through the
entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic
smile was on her lips. 'It was I who used to have to read the menu when you
were small,' she said. 'Then it's time that you relax and let me return the
favour,' I responded.
During
the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation- -nothing extraordinary but
catching up on recent events of each other's life. We talked so much that we
missed the movie.
As
we arrived at her house later, she said, 'I'll go out with you again, but only
if you let me invite you.' I agreed.
'How
was your dinner date ?' asked my wife when I got home. 'Very nice. Much more so
than I could have imagined,' I answered.
A
few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so
suddenly that I didn't have a chance to do anything for her.
Sometime
later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same
place mother and I had dined. An attached note said: 'I paid this bill in
advance. I wasn't sure that I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two
plates - one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that
night meant for me. I love you, son.'
At
that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: 'I LOVE YOU' and to
give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more
important than your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these
things cannot be put off till 'some other time.'
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