The big O is not orgasm.

The big O is oneness. It's not how great the bodies, how great the orgasm. It's, was that a loving experience where you shared with each other? Was it contributing to your oneness?

So many people think sex is about the pleasure, which it is, but it isn't. Or about the act itself, which it is, but it isn't. Sex reflects something far magnificence, far more beautiful. The problem is that people want to look more at the details.

What's okay and isn't okay in the bedroom. One of the most damaging myths is the husband and wife agrees to sexually be okay or is somehow going to be blessed by God. This idea that everything you do within the marriage bed, as long as the rings are on and it's with the one you chose, is okay. The marriage bed should be kept pure and undefiled.

We're basically talking about how to live out the Word of God. What is the truth God has about sexuality? How do you live that out for God? "But we love each other, so we should be able to do what we want." I encourage them to say, "Okay, God is love, capital L. So we must capital L love each other. We're going to express the One who is Love through this union."

So, for instance, let's say a husband wants his wife to have sex with another person. You can use scriptural principles to prove it's wrong. The wife can say, "Honey, this is not okay because Scripture says not to do that." He says, "Yeah, but I'm just fantasizing about it." She can respond, "Then let's look at the spirit of the act. If that's what you're thinking about as the two of us are becoming one and God hears and knows all, what is this act communicating to him?" I think the average couple can go, Huh, I never thought about it that way before.

The Fact is that when Man marries a woman, they become ONE. Two body but one soul. Wife become part of your body, once wife is your Ardhangani अर्धांग्नी, can you separate it.....? NO....Can you cut your finger away from your body. ....? NO....same way wife is part of your body and you are one (Husband, wife).

Once couples understand the heart of sexuality, they aren't concerned with those detail questions of How far can I go? And what can we and can we not do?

"There is no area of our being in which we can become more deeply wounded than our sexuality," "And within marriage, there's no area in which you can minister to a couple and bring greater healing and stability than in their shared sexuality. You'll impact both their intimacy together and their individual sense of wholeness as male and female, created in the image of God,

After meeting the well-educated Sadhu साधू, Sanyasi सन्यासी and some knowledgeable people, I was overwhelmed by how fun they were. They're humorous, smart, kind hearted, and passionate about helping people discover God's unique and wonderful gift of sex. Not to mention they have some solid insights on how to have a great sex life.

One of the main purposes of sex is pleasure.

One way not to have a fulfilling love life is to concentrate solely on sexual technique. There is certainly nothing wrong with learning sexual technique -- especially the basics -- but technique by itself is not the answer.

The qualities that contribute to a successful sex life are the same ones that contribute to a successful interpersonal relationship. Qualities like love, commitment and communication.

Consider love. Those romantic words, "I love you," can be interpreted several different ways. One meaning is "I love you if -- if