Woman and man’s relationship has various dynamics.

Men are known to run after “BEAUTY”, for them women are more like a project (desire)-- learn (know her), get into (have her), get familiar (entertain himself), and then move to next project.

Women need ample/own time to rely on any man who enters in her life, to develop trust level, to feel warmth, which lead into bond/relation, it is bit slow process in case of woman; but for man, it is opposite-- they attract very fast, rush to know her, to make relationship with her, without understanding the profile/need of her. When they don’t get desired response as per their expectations, they lose charm and move towards other, and that is the time, when woman overpass period of trust, when she want to relying on him, trusting him, by the time he is already mentally moved away from her, and the story ends before it starts.

I couldn’t understand, why man has high ego, and they live with it all the time, ego for what, being a man, but then they have to be either gender.

Three supreme powers, BRAHMA DEV, VISHNU DEV and LORD SHIVA, who are responsible for this world’s management for three different profile, their better halves have the equal supportive role in this management, and we all worship them.

BRAHMA DEV, known to write our fate, MAA SARASWATI, blessed us with the power of knowledge (co line part)

VISHNU DEV, responsible for our nurture, MAA LAXMI, blessed us with power of money (dependable profile)

LORD SHIVA, responsible for to put an end, MAA PARWATI, play or develop roles to make this happened. (Lead each other)

Then why this world is “men oriented” world, why all the desires and command is in men’s hand, why here is not equal, supportive, constructive role for both of them. Why Indian woman has to call her hubby “Aap” and he calls her “Tum or Tu”.

When this woman is “SHIV KI SHAKTI”, why she is so helpless today? Aren’t we spoiling the nature’s balance?

This is the only way that a Female should be understood. Too many Men want to be an Alpha and Overpower a Woman when The Woman is the One that Deserves the Empowerment. When I see a Beautiful Woman face to face, what you posted is exactly what I do. I Adore and Respect Her with passionate starring of the Eyes and Genuine Interest in Who She is Inside and Out. Being Honest no matter how Shy or Nervous I am being always the way to go. I might turn red in the face, lose My Breath and forget how to speak but as long as I can caress a cheek upon utter speechlessness then the Effortless Interest is put Forth. Thank - You for sharing this. I miss the Comfort of a Deep Passionate Woman... This is a nice Reminder of a Goal of Mine.

Importance of 108 number!

When we see number of beads in vara mala वर माला /vrata mala व्रत माला, number of names of God and Goddess, I always wondered there should be some prominence for 108 which I do not know. Why do we give so much importance to 108 in Hinduism? Why 108 is so sacred for Hindus? Here is a brief explanation of the use and importance of this number:

The diameter of the Sun is 108 times the diameter of the Earth.

The distance from the Sun to the Earth is 108 times the diameter of the Sun.

The average distance of the Moon from the Earth is 108 times the diameter of the Moon.

In Ayurveda आयुर्वेद, there are 108 “Marma मर्म” points that are vital for giving life to living beings.

The powerful Sri Chakra yantra श्री चक्र यंत्र intersects in 54 points each with a masculine and feminine quality, totalling to 108

In Indian astrology we have 12 houses and 9 plants. 12 times 9 equals to 108.

In Tantra, it is estimated that every day we breathe 21,600 times out of which 10,800 are solar energy and 10, 800 are lunar energy. Multiplying 108 X 100 is 10,800.

The famous saint Bharata भारत wrote “The Natya Shastra नाट्य शास्त्र” which has 108 karanas करण (Movement of hand and feet)

There are 54 letters in Sanskrit each can be mentioned as masculine (Shiva शिव) and feminine (Shakti शक्ति) aspect, totalling to 108.

There are 108 Puranas पुराण and 108 Upanishads उपनिषद्.

9 times 12: Both of these numbers have been said to have spiritual significance in many traditions. 9 times 12 is 108. Also, 1 plus 8 equals 9. That 9 times 12 equals 108.

Powers of 1, 2, and 3 in math: 1 to 1st power=1; 2 to 2nd power=4 (2×2); 3 to 3rd power=27 (3x3x3). 1x4x27=108

Harshad हर्षद number: 108 is a Harshad हर्षद number, which is an integer divisible by the sum of its digits (Harshad हर्षद is from Sanskrit, and means “great joy”)

Desires:

There are said to be 108 earthly desires in mortals.

Lies:

There are said to be 108 lies that humans tell.

Delusions: There are said to be 108 human delusions or forms of ignorance.

Heart Chakra चक्र:

The chakras चक्र are the intersections of energy lines, and there are said to be a total of 108 energy lines converging to form the heart chakra चक्र. One of them, sushumna सुषुम्ना leads to the crown chakra चक्र, and is said to be the path to Self-realization.

Pranayama प्राणायाम:

If one is able to be so calm in meditation as to have only 108 breaths in a day, enlightenment will come.

Sri Yantra श्री यंत्र:

On the Sri Yantra श्री यंत्र there are marmas मर्म where three lines intersect, and there are 54 such intersections. Each intersection has masculine and feminine, Shiva शिव and Shakti शक्ति qualities. 54 times 2 equal 108. Thus, there are 108 points that define the Sri Yantra श्री यंत्र as well as the human body.

Pentagon:

The angle formed by two adjacent lines in a pentagon equals 108 degrees.

Time:

Some say there are 108 feelings, with 36 related to the past, 36 related to the present, and 36 related to the future.

Astrology:

There are 12 constellations, and 9 arc segments called namshas नमष or chandrakalas चन्द्र काल. 9 times 12 equal 108. Chandra चन्द्र is moon, and kalas काल are the divisions within a whole.

River Ganga गंगा:

The sacred River Ganga गंगा spans a longitude of 12 degrees (79 to 91), and latitude of 9 degrees (22 to 31). 12 times 9 equal 108.

Gopis गोपी of Krishna कृष्ण:

There were said to be 108 gopis गोपी or maid servants of Krishna कृष्ण.

1, 0, and 8:

Some say that 1 stands for God or higher Truth, 0 stands for emptiness or completeness in spiritual practice, and 8 stands for infinity or eternity.

Silver and the moon:

In astrology, the metal silver is said to represent the moon. The atomic weight of silver is 108.

Numerical scale:

The 1 of 108, and the 8 of 108, when added together equals 9, which is the number of the numerical scale, i.e. 1, 2, 3 … 10, etc., where 0 is not a number.

Meditations:

Some say there are 108 styles of meditation.

Paths to God: Some suggest that there are 108 paths to God.

Jain जैन:

In the Jain जैन religion, 108 are the combined virtues of five categories of holy ones, including 12, 8, 36, 25, and 27 virtues respectively.

Sikh सिख:

The Sikh सिख tradition has a mala माला of 108 knots tied in a string of wool, rather than beads.

Buddhism बुद्ध:

Some Buddhists बुद्ध carve 108 small Buddhas बुद्ध on a walnut for good luck. Some ring a bell 108 times to celebrate a new year. There are said to be 108 virtues to cultivate and 108 defilements to avoid.

Chinese:

The Chinese Buddhists बुद्ध and Taoists use a 108 bead mala, which is called su-chu, and has three dividing beads, so the mala is divided into three parts of 36 each. Chinese astrology says that there are 108 sacred stars.

Stages of the soul:

Said that Atman आत्मा, the human soul or centre goes through 108 stages on the journey.

Meru मेरु:

This is a larger bead, not part of the 108. It is not tied in the sequence of the other beads. It is the guiding bead, the one that marks the beginning and end of the mala माला.

Praiseworthy souls:

There are 108 qualities of praiseworthy souls.

Japan:

In Japan, at the end of the year, a bell is chimed 108 times to finish the old year and welcome the new one. Each ring represents one of 108 earthly temptations a person must overcome to achieve nirvana.

108 signify the wholeness of the divinity, perfect totality. So, let us follow what our ancestors told us to do.

Who am I ?

Why am I here?

What am I to do?

What is the use of this life?

We are Borne why ?

Where did I come from?

Where am I going ?

What is the use of this life? And…….When I die where I will go ?

Who am I ?

We are moving towards a new age and in this new age we have some new questions. This doesn't surprise us, as it is a common nature of humans, after all new questions brings new discovery in our life. In today time people have a huge interest in knowing of self and as result people don’t hesitate in asking some question like this - What is my real identity? How do my thoughts and feelings interact with the body? Why do we come under emotions, feelings, tension and stress, How does an individual develops behavioural patterns, traits etc; how to transform them, How to enjoy this precious life? How to lead a life of peace and bliss? I shall be providing some answers to these questions. For that we should know about SOUL and BODY

Soul And Body

The human body is a complex pattern of physical energies. Atomic particles build together to form the organic structures and inorganic minerals, which perform the body’s chemical interactions, thus forming the basis of the hormonal and nervous control of the body. What we see as the old or young, male or female, are also the differing levels of physical energies. However marvellous a machine the body may be, it is the presence of the non-physical conscious energy, the soul, which makes it function. So it means that I am a living entity different from the body. I am a soul that controls this body but how it can be? If I am soul then what is the role of a body? Let understand this with the simple example.

Just as a person who speaks with the help of a telephone or listens to a call with the help of that instrument, has his entity different from that of the telephone – he himself being a living person who has the faculties or characteristics of feeling, thinking, willing and making effort. Similarly, the conscious entity in the body which uses the word “I” is different from the body which has eyes, ears, nose etc. as its components. I am not the eyes, the ears or the mouth but I see with my eyes, speak through the mouth, hear with the ears and am their master. I am a soul (Atma आत्मा), eternal and immortal. The body is mortal; I have got it to do actions and to experience the result of my actions. I am the doer and the one who experiences.

I am a soul (Atma आत्मा)

The soul is like a driver in-charge of the body, which serves as a carriage to the soul. The soul is a diamond, the body being the casket for it. When the soul leaves the body, the body is declared ‘dead’. Then people set about cremating it because, it’s valuable owner, the soul, has already left and the body is of no use. When the soul has relinquished the body, people say, “The light (which is soul) has gone, that which lived in it has departed and the drama is over”

Faculties of a Soul

The soul is a living or a sentient being. It is said to be living because it can think and reflect; it can experience pleasure and pain, so also bliss and peace; it can bestir itself and make efforts and actions, soul has three faculties – mind, intellect and predispositions.

SMART का मतलब है:

S – Specific (स्पष्ट)

M - Measurable (जिसे मापा जा सके)

A - Achievable (पूर्ण करने योग्य)

R - Realistic (वास्तविक)

T - Time-bound (समय में बंधा हुआ)

एक SMART लक्ष्य में ऊपर बतायी गयी सभी गुण होने चाहियें।

1.Specific (स्पष्ट): आपका लक्ष्य बिलकुल स्पष्ट होना चाहिए, उसे सुनने या पढने के बाद उसे लेकर कोई संशय नहीं होना चाहिए, अगर कोई कहता है कि उसे “अच्छे अंक लाने हैं” तो ये बात स्पष्ट नहीं होती कि वो किस विषय या परिक्षा की बात कर रहा है, जिसमे उसे अच्छे अंक लाने हैं, और अच्छे से क्या मतलब है? किसी के लिए 100 में 80 अच्छा हो सकता है तो किसी के लिए 100 में 60 भी अच्छा हो सकता है। इसी तरह, कई लोग कहते हैं कि मेरा लक्ष्य है एक सफल आदमी बनना, पर जब आप उनसे पूछेंगे की किस क्षेत्र में तो शायद वो कोई संतोषजनक जवाब ना दे पाएं, यानि वो अपने लक्ष्य को लेकर स्पष्ट नहीं हैं, और जब लक्ष्य स्पष्ट ना हो तो उसके हासिल करने की बात ही नहीं उठती।

2.Measurable (जिसे मापा जा सके): आपका लक्ष्य ऐसा होना चाहिए जिसे किसी पैमाने पर मापा जा सके, यानि उस लक्ष्य के साथ कोई संख्या या कोई अंक जुड़ा होना चाहिए, उदाहरण के तौर पर, यदि कोई कहता है की उसका लक्ष्य वजन कम करना है तो सवाल उठता है की कितना कम करना है, लक्ष्य के साथ जब अंक जुड़ जाते हैं तो आप अपनी तरक्की को माप सकते हैं, और ये जान सकते हैं की आपने अपना लक्ष्य सही तरह से हासिल किया कि नहीं, इसलिए एक अच्छा लक्ष्य हमेशा ऐसा होता है जिसे मापा जा सके।

3.Achievable (पूर्ण करने योग्य): यदि आप कोई ऐसा लक्ष्य बनाएँगे जिसको बनाने के बाद आपको महसूस हो कि ये असंभव है तो ऐसे लक्ष्य का कोई अर्थ नहीं है, दोस्तों हमारा अवचेतन मस्तिष्क, एक जागरूक मस्तिष्क से कहीं अधिक ताक़तवर होता है, यदि आप जागरूक मस्तिष्क से कोई असंभव लक्ष्य बनायेंगे और अवचेतन मस्तिष्क उसे समर्थन नहीं करेगा तो आपके लक्ष्य पूरा होने के संभावना नहीं के बराबर होगी। उदाहरण के तौर पर, अगर आप तय करते हैं कि मुझे गणित में 100 अंक लाने हैं और आपका पिछला रिकॉर्ड बताता है कि आप मुश्किल से ही इस विषय में पास होते हैं तो तुरंत ही आपका अवचेतन मस्तिष्क इसे नकार देगा और आप ये लक्ष्य हासिल नहीं कर पाएंगे . वहीँ अगर आप 75% अंक लाने की सोचते हैं तो आपके सफल होने की संभावना कहीं अधिक होगी।

4.Realistic (वास्तविक): आपका लक्ष्य आपके लिए वास्तविक होना चाहिए, हासिल करने योग्य (Achievable) और वास्तविक(Realistic) के बीच एक पतली लाइन है, जो लक्ष्य वास्तविक है वो हासिल करने योग्य हो सकता है, पर जो हासिल करने योग्य है वो वास्तविक भी हो ऐसा ज़रूरी नहीं है, उदाहरण के तौर पर, परीक्षा में सर्वोच्च स्थान प्राप्त करना करना एक हासिल करने योग्य लक्ष्य है, पर यदि आपने शुरू से पढ़ाई नहीं की है और अब बस परीक्षा में कुछ ही दिन बचे हैं तो ये अवास्तविक होगा कि आप सर्वोच्च स्थान प्राप्त करेंगे, हमेशा अपनी क्षमता के हिसाब से वास्तविक लक्ष्य बनाएं। ये भी ध्यान रखें कि कोई काम किसी और के लिए वास्तविक हो सकता है पर आपको उसे अपने द्रष्टिकोण से देखना है और अपने लक्ष्य बनाने है।

5.Time-bound (समय में बंधा हुआ): “एक लक्ष्य एक समय सीमा के साथ देखा गया सपना है” लक्ष्य के साथ अगर आप समय सीमा नहीं निर्धारित करेंगे तो आपको उसे हासिल करने की अत्यावश्यकता नहीं महसूस होगी और आप उसे पूरा करने के लिए सही प्रयत्न नहीं कर पायेंगे, इसीलिए लक्ष्य निर्धारित करते वक़्त ये निश्चय करना कि इसे कब तक हासिल करना है बहुत ही आवश्यक है, मैंने कई बार लोगों को ये कहते सुना है कि मुझे नया व्यवसाय शुरू करना है, पर ये बहुत कम ही सुनने में आता है कि मुझे इस साल के इस महीने से व्यवसाय शुरू करना है, अतः आप जब भी अपना लक्ष्य बनाएं तो उसे कब तक हासिल करना है ये ध्यान में रखें और उसे अपनी सोच का हिस्सा बनाएं।

तो यदि हम अपने शुरआती प्रश्न पर लौटें तो हम पायेंगे की अधिकतर मामलों में “मुझे वार्षिक परिक्षा में गणित में कम से कम 80 अंक लाने हैं” एक SMART लक्ष्य होगा. अगर “मुझे वार्षिक परिक्षा में गणित में 100 अंक लाने हैं” लक्ष्य की बात करें तो ये ज्यादातर लोगों के लिए या तो हासिल करने योग्य नहीं होगा या वास्तविक नहीं होगा, पर कुछ लोगों के लिए जो गणित में विशेषतया अच्छे हैं उनके लिए ये एक SMART लक्ष्य हो सकता है, पर ऐसी प्रजाति बहुत कम ही पायी जाती है।

SMART लक्ष्य बना लेना मतलब आधी जंग जीतना है, और ना बना पाना हारना, लक्ष्य तय करने के बाद ये जरूरी हो जाता है की उसको पाने के लिए पूरी तरह से प्रयत्न किये जाए। स्वामी विवेकानंद के अनुसार "उठो, जागो और तब तक नहीं रुको जब तक लक्ष्य ना प्राप्त हो जाये", कहने का मतलब है कि "लक्ष्य तय करना" सफल होने का एक जरूरी घटक है लेकिन सफल होने के लिए ये अपने आप में पूर्ण नहीं है, लक्ष्य तय करने के बाद उसको पाने के लिए कठोर परिश्रम करके ही सफलता को प्राप्त किया जा सकता है।