Eat together in Peace

Eat together in Peace

I LOVE to work to create an inner and outer environment of peace. There are many ways to do this....through writing, Film making, Organising for Social Activities, educating children....and now.... through food.

Marguerite Theophil writes of two women who promote peace.... through food.

Recently, I learned of two young women, Stephanie Knox Cubbon and Hannah Renglich who first met in the United Nations mandated University for peace in Costa Rica, and found they had many things in common including a desire to promote peace in the World, and a passion for food. As they talked one day about this fusion of interest, they thought, “If we could align the way we produce and consume food with peaceful Principles, imagine the impact it could have!” and came up with the Idea for Peace Meal.

Stephanie writes. “For us, the connections were very clear. If we are Lucky enough to eat three times a day, those are three very important times that we can make choices that promote peace....within ourselves, our relationships. Our communities, and for healthy Planet.”

They suggest a three-stage expanding sense of mindful actions: promoting inner peace through the act of mindful eating; then at the interpersonal level, using meals as the opportunity to forge bonds and deepen dialogue, while at the community level, sharing food can be an act of connection and service. In this it is important to hold the thought that everyone not having enough to eat is a violation of human rights, often connected to ecological degradation, and unjust distribution of resources.

Peace Meal is a simple idea, but like many simple ideas, I believe it is one which can inspire us to deeper levels of engagement. There will be sceptics who might sneer at this, but we must understand that mindfulness in following these seemingly simple  suggestions can lead us to more active ways of addressing this issue.

There are many more different perspectives on issues of food and peace. They are also launching an online course with National Peace Academy as part of their National Peace building, Peace clearing Certificate Program. They say, “We hope that the course will provide people with concrete tools to promote peace through food, and also will help to create a Global network that is working toward this.”

Through the course they examine, the relationship between food and peace at different levels, from the personal to the Global. Participants explore how the act of daily act of eating is connected to different facets of peace, and reflect on their own place in the food system, also understanding the mostly ignored non-peaceful elements of the food system’

It is good at times, to pause and reflect on the choices each of us make s about food. It is an illusion to imagine that food is a personal matter...the production and preparation of food we consume and how we consume them, links us in a chain of connection to more people than we can really imagine. The next meal you eat ...pause for moment to thank and bless all of them. May we find simple and effective ways to practice and promote peace. 

Every Desire Ends In Tears

Every Desire Ends In Tears

Because desire means desire for more; how can you quench it? By the time you have arrived, it asks for more. You wanted ten thousand rupees; by the time you have ten thousand, the desire has moved ahead of you - it is asking for one hundred thousand. By the time you achieve that, the desire has moved. It always moves ahead of you; the distance between you and your desire always remains the same.

Desires are unending what we see in the hierarchy of needs. Desires are automatically translated in to needs. To meet needs one has to strive to achieve. By the time you achieve the previous desire, the higher need creeps in and you get entangled in the vicious cycle which continues till death. Real contentment is not related with the desires or needs. Real satisfaction is the state of mind which gives the person divine pleasure in whatever he possesses. I do not say that one should be contented with the available resources and never attempt to get more. One should do his best to gain the maximum as per his ability and potentials honestly.

We have seen in the recent London Olympics that we could not get a single Gold and had to conclude with six Silver and Bronze medals only. Although we accepted the fact that we did our best but could not make more. We will strive to get more in the next Olympics but we know our limits and potentials and have to accept the facts gracefully.

Saint Kabir says

"Sai itna dijiye jame kutumb samaye,

 Mai bhi bhukha na rahu, sadhu bhi na bhukha jaye.”

साइं इतना दीजिये जामे कुटुंब समाय

 मै भी भूखा ना रहूँ, साधु भी ना भूखा जाये

Means I should have that much which would be enough so that I should eat with my family, and the guest also is fed. Kabir is contented with the minimum requirement whereas Tata and Ambani will not. Thus the level and degree of contentment varies from person to person.

The distance between a beggar and his desire, and the distance between Alexander the Great and his desire is the same. Both are poor in the same way. Alexander may have much that does not make much difference — he is not satisfied with what he has.

It is said that Diogenes once said to Alexander the Great, “Have you ever thought about one thing? — meditate over it: you want to conquer the whole world, but are you aware that once you have conquered the whole world, then what? There is no other world. Then what will you do?”

Diogenes And Alexander-And it is said, just by Diogenes saying it, Alexander became very sad, and he said, “Please don’t mention such sad things — let me first conquer the whole world, and then we will see. But don’t talk about such sad things to me; it makes me feel very sad.”

He had not conquered the whole world yet, but the very idea that if you conquer the whole world, and then what are you going to do? There is no other world, and you will feel stuck. The mind will ask for more.

The mind lives through more, and the more cannot be fulfilled; that is impossible. Every desire ends in frustration, because every expectation is the beginning of frustration. Why does every desire end in frustration? There are only two alternatives: either you achieve your object of desire or you don’t achieve it, but in both cases, it will end in tears. If you achieve it, you will see the utter futility of it all.

The rich man sees the futility of his riches - how much he has laboured, and how much he has worked for it! And now, whatsoever he has attained is absolutely useless, it fulfils nothing. You can have several houses, but you are the same person, as empty as before. You can live in a palace, but how can you change your inner meaninglessness?

Make Life Meaningful-In fact, you will be more meaningless in a palace, because while you are in a hut you can still hope that one day when you have managed to get into a palace, everything will be okay. You can hope, but the man, who is in the palace, has no hope, he feels utterly hopeless. And he cannot say it to others either, because that will be stupid of him.

Just think of Alexander the Great; he devoted his whole life to conquering the world. And when he had conquered it, if he had said to the world, ‘It was useless. I wasted my time and my life’, people would have laughed at him. Could he not see it before?

You go on following others, although you see them living in misery. You go on following the powerful, the rich, and the wealthy, although you see their faces are sad, their eyes are dull. They don’t seem to be intelligent either; they don’t have any grace, any joy, and any beauty.

If you succeed, you will be in pain, because your success will bring the truth home: that your whole life has been sacrificed for nothing. If you fail, you will be frustrated, because you will see that you have failed, you are not worthy. You will become self-condemnatory.

And no desire simply ends; before it ends, it gives birth to other desires. So it remains a continuum: one goes on from one desire to another desire, life after life.

The three W's- Wait-Witness-Watch- the only solution to contentment. Either you will be consumed by your desires or you have to consume your desires. And consuming means: witness, watch... The intelligent person lives joyfully, contentedly, whatsoever situation he is in, whatsoever he has got.

Sleep Tight - Sleep Right

In this fast paced, rat raced life, when we are struggling to complete our TO-DO list, it may seem that cutting back on sleep may be the only answer.  Yet we all know from experience that if we do not get adequate sleep we not only become grumpy and not nice to be around, but it can also be detrimental to our health.

Although I am no sleep doctor or professional of any sort, I have learnt a thing or two about using meditation as a tool to deepen the quality of my sleep.

In fact, it is not only at the end of the day that we have to be concerned about our sleep. The quality of our waking hours will also determine the quality of our sleep at night.  Try sleeping after a bout of anger, after gossiping about your friends or being unfaithful to your partner.  The chances are you will be tossing and turning in your sleep “and you are not likely to come out of it feeling rested.

Although many will argue that we need 8 hours of sleep a day, it has been proven time and again that in practice, yogis do need less sleep.  Having a simple and uncomplicated lifestyle also helps, as does a vegetarian diet since a plant-based diet is much quicker and easier to digest.

Heart Touching Story.... (Never judge anyone)

Heart Touching Story.... (Never judge anyone)

A doctor entered the hospital in hurry after being called in for an urgent surgery.

He answered the call as soon as possible, changed his clothes & went directly to the surgery block.

He found the boy's father pacing in the hall waiting for the doctor.

On seeing him, the dad yelled: "Why did you take all this time to come? Don't you know that my son's life is in danger? Don't you have any sense of responsibility?"

The doctor smiled & said: "I am sorry, I wasn't in the hospital & I came as fast as I could after receiving the call...... And now, I wish you'd calm down so that I can do my work"

"Calm down?! What if your son was in this room right now, would you calm down? If your own son dies now what will you do??" said the father angrily

The doctor smiled again & replied: "I will say what Job said in the Holy Book "From dust we came & to dust we return, blessed be the name of God". Doctors cannot prolong lives. Go & intercede for your son, we will do our best by God's grace"

"Giving advises when we're not concerned is so easy" Murmured the father.

The surgery took some hours after which the doctor went out happy, "Thank goodness! Your son is saved!"

And without waiting for the father's reply he carried on his way running. "If you have any question, ask the nurse!!"

"Why is he so arrogant? He couldn't wait some minutes so that I ask about my son's state" Commented the father when seeing the nurse minutes after the doctor left.

The nurse answered, tears coming down her face: "His son died yesterday in a road accident, he was in the burial when we called him for your son's surgery. And now that he saved your son's life, he left running to finish his son's burial."

Moral-Never judge anyone….. Because you never know how their life is & what they’re going through”

Where is God?

Where is God?

The Sun never fails to perform its function; the Moon is never late. The season come and go, never failing to arrive. A child grows physically, mentally, and spiritually. The whole of creation evolves. No two moments are entirely alike. All that exists is a sign of God. For Sufis, this sign is the innate ability of the soul to perceive the presence of God in all things.

People often ask: “Where is God?” the response is that God is all and all is God. God is in the bark of the dog; the buzz of a bee; the silence of a tree; in the stillness of the Log; the hug of a mother; the smile of the child; the colour of the flower; the singing of the birds. Everything is a signpost to the oneness of God.

Imagine if God had never created anything. We would never have seen life- love, sunrises, sunsets, struggles pain, gain, sorrow, joy. His creation blesses us to see. His beauty in nature- the ocean, Sun, Moon, Stars, Birds and Mankind. What absolute magic. “Divine mercy that gives rise to the Universe is existence itself. The very act of bringing things into existence is an act of Gentleness and Kindness.”

Creation provides for everything humans wants. It provides for all human needs. God is most beneficent and most merciful. His arms are always open to us all.

When we ponder the natural World, we get a glimpse of the true wonder of creation. We begin to understand the beauty and wisdom of the Universe and its Creator.

No one is promised tomorrow. Have a wonderful Life with no regrets!

No one is promised tomorrow. Have a wonderful Life with no regrets!

Indeed the best eye opener message (Must Read) :

It was their anniversary, and Aisha was waiting for her husband Rajiv to show up. Things had changed since their marriage, the once cute couple couldn't-live-without- each- other had turned bitter. Fighting over every little thing, both didn't like the way things had changed.

Aisha was waiting to see if Rajiv remembered it was their anniversary! Just as the door bell rang she ran to find her husband wet and smiling with a bunch of flowers in his hand.

The two started re-living the old days. Making up for fights, then was the plan for champagne, light music And it was raining outside! It was perfect. But the moment paused when the phone in the bedroom rang.

Aisha went to pick it up and it was a man.

"Hello ma'am I'm calling from the police station. Is this Mr Rajiv Mehra's number?"

"Yes it is!"

"I'm sorry ma'am; but there was an accident and a man died. We got this number from his wallet; we need you to come and identify his body."

Aisha's heart sank.!!! She was shocked!

"But my husband is here with me?"

"Sorry ma'am, but the incident took place at 2 pm, when he was boarding the train."

Aisha was about to lose her conscience. How could this happen? She had heard about the soul of the person coming to meet a loved one before it leaves!

She ran into the other room. He was not there. It was true! He had left her for good!!

Oh God she would have died for another chance to mend every little fight! She rolled on the floor in pain.

She lost her chance! Forever!

Suddenly there was a noise from the bathroom, the door opened and Rajiv came out and said.....

"Darling, I forgot to tell you my wallet got stolen today".

LIFE MIGHT NOT GIVE YOU A SECOND CHANCE. SO NEVER WASTE A MOMENT WHEN YOU CAN STILL MAKE UP FOR YOUR WRONGS!!!

So let's start making amends.

To parents

To siblings

To friends

And many more.

Tantra Kundalini

Tantra Kundalini

According to the philosophy of Tantra, the entire universe is a manifestation of pure consciousness. In manifesting the universe, this pure consciousness seems to become divided into two poles or aspects, neither of which can exist without the other. Each requires the other in order to manifest its total nature.

One aspect, Shiva, is masculine, retains a static quality and remains identified with un-manifested consciousness. Shiva has the power to be but not the power to become or change.

The other aspect, Shakti, is feminine, dynamic, energetic and creative. Shakti is the Great Mother of the universe, for it is from her that all form is born.

According to Tantra, the human being is a miniature universe. All that is found in the cosmos can be found within each individual, and the same principles that apply to the universe apply in the case of the individual being.

In human beings, Shakti, the feminine aspect is called Kundalini. This potential energy is said to rest at the base of the spinal cord. The object of the Tantric practice of Kundalini-yoga is to awaken this cosmic energy and make it ascend through the psychic centers, the Chakras, that lie along the axis of the spine as consciousness potentials. She will then unite above the crown of the head with Shiva the pure consciousness. This union is the aim of Kundalini-yoga: a resolution of duality into unity again, a fusion with the Absolute. By this union the adept attains liberation while living which is considered in Indian life to be the highest experience: an union of the individual with the universe. Once Kundalini Shakti has ascended to above the crown of the head and merged with Shiva, it is made to reverse its course and return to rest at the base of the spine.

In Tantrism the state of ultimate bliss is a transcendence of dualities male-female, energy-consciousness, Shiva-Shakti…

Kundalini Arousal

Kundalini Arousal

Kundalini is conceived by the Hindus to be a coiled up energy residing at the base of the spin in the root Chakra. In most people this energy is asleep but it can be aroused througha number of practices involving for example Yoga, meditation and Dikdha, which is the transmission of energy  from an awakened person.

Whe the energy is aroused it ascends through the spinal columns in the Shushuma channel passing through each through each of the Chakras on its way to the brain. If the energy rises through the Ida or Pingala channels instead it may cause severe mental disturbance.

The Human Body Compared to a Mansion

The Human Body Compared to a Mansion

One little point needs to be stressed here. The body is like a mansion. No matter how wonderful a mansion may be, even if it be made of marble and set with jewels, no one will be able to live in that mansion unless it has a kitchen and a bathroom and a toilet. Because, whatever man takes in, part of its goes to form his mind, part of it goes to form his body, and the remaining waste has to be eliminated. And waste is always foul-smelling. The impurities of the body are always foul-smelling. In the outer mansion they have to have a toilet, they have to have a kitchen. If there be no kitchen, no one can live there. You may construct any type of palace, but if there is no food, no lunch, no breakfast, no afternoon tea—even for a day—no one will live there.

But then, when a kitchen is there, you have to provide drainage also. Kitchen means garbage, left-over food, vegetable cuttings, fruit peels and all that. If all this is kept, it will begin to rot and so you have to have a garbage disposal arrangement. You have to have drainage and sewerage. In the absence of all these arrangements, it will not be possible to live in that mansion. Likewise, in the human body, in this mansion of Nine gates, in this Navadvara Kuti नवद्वार कुटि,( Nine Doors House) where you have an entrance way and windows for light and air and knowledge, for the sake of drainage and garbage disposal, God has provided two holes.

Their real importance is that of drainage. They are only drains. This is the only right understanding of the matter. No doubt, the occasional function of reproduction is there, but to over-exaggerate that aspect is foolish. It betrays a lack of knowledge. Because, from birth until death, day after day, thirty days in a month, and three hundred and sixty-five days in the year, the constant function that these exit gates have to fulfill is drainage. And the occasional function that they have to fulfill is in cooperating with Brahma, but that is only some rare occasional function and that also, only in a very short period of one’s life. In the first Ashrama आश्रम of Brahmacharya ब्रह्मचार्य, it has no place; in the third Ashrama आश्रम of Vanaprastha वानप्रस्थ, it has no place; and in the fourth Ashrama of Sannyasa संन्यास आश्रम, it has no place. Out of the whole life, it is only in one Ashrama आश्रम that that particular function of it is exercised. Otherwise, the main function of these outlets is only drainage of impurities.

If you change your Drishtikona दृष्टिकोण  (Vision/viewpoint)  and understand the body in the right perspective, then a great deal of your problem will be solved. It is taking a wrong view and giving a wrong emphasis which makes one to get into all sorts of difficulties. Secondly, take a look at it from the Vedantic वेदांतिक point of view. The Adesha आदेश or Sandesha संदेश (The Message or instructions) of Vedanta वेदांता, the primary declaration of Vedanta वेदांता, is that you are not this body, but that you are the Ajara अजर Amara अमर Avinashi अविनाशी Atma आत्मा. (For ever, for always, and cannot have destruction) Then, if you are not to identify yourself with your entire body, how can you identify yourself with one aspect of it? So, if your faith in Vedanta वेदांता is Pucca पक्का (Confirmed), is firm and genuine, if you are true to your Vedanta वेदांता, then, you have your solution in your own hand.

Sex and spirituality (संभोग से मोक्ष तक)-2

Sex and spirituality (संभोग से मोक्ष तक)-2

The deeper you can love yourself in the true sense of the word, the deeper you can love God. Since you are God’s creation when you experience a great orgasm, you are rejoicing in the joy of connecting with the divine. So if you take sex out of its temporal context than you will see that a spiritual experience can grow out of this humblest of biological acts. However to experience that ultimate bliss where you are one with the divine, where you feel a cosmic energy rushing through you, needs practice and open mind and a willingness to surrender oneself completely without shame or guilt to your chosen partner. For in the true union of the two partners in scared sex lies the release of that cosmic energy.

Mystical Sex is the Sex elevated from the mundane onto a spiritual plane. A seemingly incongruous combination but, so only to our conditioned minds, which have been taught to regard sexual activity as something to be hidden, or frowned upon. Sexuality actually is the most intense of sensuous experience, because all the five senses are simultaneously involved in a sexual act. It is therefore the most direct experience to realise the power of the five senses and to understand the meaning of desire. Yes, it also then gives you the feel of what it is like to practice withdrawal of senses. But first let's talk of mystical sex. Sexual preparation, sexual activity and finally, the last phase of compel, which is the cause of our being. For these brief moments, the medley of thoughts that normally run through our minds simply stops.

What one achieves through sexuality is a very short- lived experience of spirituality. There are two paths from here on-

The first to extend the brief experience into a longer one through practice of pranayama प्राणायाम that is by developing single pointed ness that directs orgasmic energy towards our head, thereon to the solar plexus.

And the second path is to transcend the Sexual experiencing and channel the sexual energy elsewhere to creative works, to healing others, to heal our self, to meditate successfully and to experience this energy in all other areas without involving a sexual act.

This takes us to celibacy. Celibacy is not the killing of sexual energy; it is the channeling of this energy to other areas of our life. It is the transcending of sexual bodily pleasure derived from our senses on to the experience of reality - beyond the senses. It is to be able experience the beatitude we have felt in that of orgasmic moment- in us- by our self without a sexual act.

This is Brahmacharya ब्रह्मचार्य, a redirection of sexual energy towards a meditative experience or other spiritual experiences. It is the withdrawal of the mind and body from the senses. In the Vedic वैदिक  tradition all human beings are governed by a five fold structure which is

(a) External security, contentment

(b) Fulfillment of our desires

(c) Living according to the natural laws and

(d) Evolving towards ultimate freedom.

Astha आस्था, Kama काम, Dharma धर्म and Moksha मोक्ष. A human being can live on all four simultaneously or choose to live on one or other. If his choice is the last that is moksha मोक्ष, mukti मुक्ति (Salvation/Nirvana) transcendence, then the yogic योगिक tradition prescribes a code of conduct-these are Yamas यम and Niyamas नियम. The five Yamas यम are-

(a) Truthfulness

(b) Honesty

(c) Non possessiveness

(d) Non violence and very importantly

(e) Brahmcharya ब्रह्मचार्य celibacy.

Women in Tantric तांत्रिक Traditions" says "Some tantric तांत्रिक process felt that a celibate" in "The Art of Sexual Ecstasy and The Art of Sexual magic"

"You have to go into the hell of darkness

You have to taste the best foods

You have to F… your brain out

You have to go into a cave and meditate You have to do it all"

There is saying that “Man goes to heaven through the gate of Hell.”

The cause of most of the unhappiness on the earth is that man and woman have actually forgotten how to make love. This means that only the individual man or woman have any chance of starting to correct it. There can be no mass solution. The problem is too personal and too deep. Everybody has to do it for himself or herself or it cannot be done. 

Sex and spirituality (संभोग से मोक्ष तक)-1

Sex and spirituality (संभोग से मोक्ष तक)-1

What a predicament – sex and spirituality! This is a tough nut to crack, and we wonder if anybody has really cracked it satisfactorily even after thousands of years. Of course, if we want to be free, it’s not sex itself that is the problems, but our relationship with it. The perennial question is: if we have sincere spiritual aspirations, then what is the best position to take in relationship to one of our most basic instincts? Well –and this is the fun part – it all depends who you ask!

The working of Sex Impulse- Man wishes to have children to maintain the race or line. This is the reproductive instinct. The desire to copulate proceeds from this sexual instinct. The strength of the sexual desire depends upon the sexual impulse.

According to the Gita गीता, impulse is Vegam वेगम  or force. Lord Krishna भगवान कृष्ण says, "He who is able to endure here on earth, before he is liberated from the body, the force born of desire and passion, he is harmonised, he is a happy man".

Impulse is a mighty force. It exerts influence on the mind. It is a force suddenly communicated to the mind.

Just as petrol or steam moves the engine, the instincts and impulses move this body. The instincts are the prime movers of all human activities. They give a push to the body and move the Indriyas इन्द्रियाँ to action. The instincts create habits. The instinctive impulses supply the driving power by which all mental activities are kept up. These impulses are mental forces. They operate through the mind and the intellect. They mould the life of a man. The mystery of life lies in them. The attraction towards women in men is born of Rajas रजस. That unknown attraction and happiness in their company is the seed of the sex impulse. This attraction, which is like a bubble in the beginning, later on assumes the form of a formidable, uncontrollable wave of strong passion or sexual appetite.

You must understand the psychological working of the sex impulse. When there are itches on the body, mere scratching of them is a pleasure. The sex impulse is only a nervous itching. The satisfaction of this impulse begets a delusive pleasure, but it has a positive effect on the spiritual well-being of the person.

What is the relationship of sex and spirituality? A strange combination it seems but one that evokes huge responses. Is there something called sacred sex! Or is celibacy the only path for the true seeker.

It is ultimately a personal choice that people must make, not forgetting that the spiritual practice of celibacy was and is considered to be a profound even crucial aspect of spiritual life by the Christians, Buddhist and Hindus alike.

For it is foolish to underestimate the overwhelming power that the sexual instinct possesses to create complex delusions and illusions! Understand and be aware of this powerfully before accepting or rejecting it.

The truth is, for most of us on the spiritual path, esoteric questions such as these, as intriguing as they are, are really superfluous. Why? Because the greatest challenge for most of sexuality at least, is just not to make a mess of it, or as they say, create more karma (कर्म). And if big gurus are apparently confused about the right relationship to sexuality what are we mere mortals supposed to do? Forget about the whole thing? Impossible…….

Face it directly and try to come to terms with it? Sounds good, but who has the courage and heroic spirit necessary to really look into the eye of the tiger of sexual desire without the whole world falling apart? You see, so many of us open-minded, freethinking characters really are squares when it comes to this particular mega-life issue. What does that mean? It means that we don’t want to look at the whole question too personally because, for most of us, sex is more important than God. The promise of perfect happiness and deep contentment that the sexual experience represents creates a whole universe of attachment and selfhood that is far too important to us to be questioned.

Many people tend to misinterpret whenever we speak each other or discuss about God and sexuality. This is such a loaded for most of us. And, as said earlier, it is very difficult to see clearly into this area of the human experience, especially when it relates to us. So what is needed at present…… the facts? Once again, the definition of spiritual freedom is freedom from attachment. Sex creates attachment that’s all there is to it. And this is why there is almost always an inherent conflict between the longing for inner freedom and the karmic consequences of the sexual / romantic experience. Therefore, the big question is: if enlightened freedom from attachment, then what are we all going to do about the relentless nature of sexual attraction?

I believe that if we want to be free, we can’t naively assume that there is a simple, ready-made answer to such a complex question. And if we are Sincere, we have to be willing to bear the burden of that complexity on our own shoulders and figure it out for ourselves.

In the end, if you want to be free, then all you need to know is that free means free from attachment. This simple fact transcends the relative matter of whether you are engaging in a sexual relationship or not. If you face this spiritual truth unflinchingly, then you will be looking into the heart of the matter. And this takes a lot more courage than blindly accepting someone else’s conclusion.

When you renounce the endless self-centred concerns of the separate ego and its small personal perspective then, spontaneously, you will find yourself there. This is where you will discover an absolute love, a bliss that is empty of attachment and free from the conviction that anything fundamental is missing. And it is this context that alone, which is one of inherent fullness and completing, that can make it possible for human beings to come together in personal intimacy and sexual communion in a way that is free from the pain, complexity, and unending confusion that are usually such an inherent part of this area of life.

Very few of us can really relate sex to the world of spiritual emancipation. This is because of our conditioning from the time we understand sex- that sexuality is something that needs to be hidden or something that needs to be frowned upon. Rarely do we come across anybody who knows or accepts that sex is neutral, that this can be so much a part of our spiritual experience. It is seemingly an incongruous combination. But the truth is that scared sex exists. And no, this is not a new fanged idea but it is something as old as our religion itself.

With so much focus on celibacy as the only way to enjoy spirituality people often ignore that intense sexual instinct provides a spiritual experience. In fact there are proponents of the belief that you do not necessarily have to lead a celibate life to be one with the supreme God. They say that high spiritual consciousness can actually free one from enjoying the power of sex, both physically and mentally. 

What goes around comes around- An Amazing Story

What goes around comes around

Amazing Story

This is a true story that had happened in 1892 at Stanford University. It’s moral is still relevant to-day.

A young, 18 year old student was struggling to pay his fees. He was an orphan, and not knowing where to turn for money, he came up with a bright idea. A friend and he decided to host a musical concert on campus to raise money for their education.

They reached out to the great pianist Iignacy J. Paderewski. His manager demanded a guaranteed fee of $ 2,000 for the piano recital. A deal was struck. And the boys began to work to make the concert a success.

The big day arrived. Paderewski performed at Stanford. But unfortunately, they had not managed to cell enough tickets. The total collection was $ 1,600. Disappointed, they went to Paderewski and explained their plight. They gave him the entire $ 1,600, plus a cheque for the balance of $ 400. They promised to honour the cheque soonest possible.

“No” said Paderewski. “This is not acceptable” He tore up the Cheque, returned the $1,600 and told the boys “Here’s the $1,600. Please deduct whatever expenses you have incurred. Keep the money you need for your fees. And just give me whatever is left” The boys were surprised, and thanked him profusely.

It was a small act of kindness. But it clearly marked out Paderewski as a great human being. Why should he help two people he did not even know? We all come across situations like these in our lives. And most of us only think “If I help them, what would happen to me?”

The truly great people think, “If I don’t help them, what will happen to them?” They don’t do it expecting something in return. They do it because they feel it’s the right thing to do.

Paderewski later went on to become the Prime Minister of Poland. He was a great leader, but unfortunately when the World War began, Poland was ravaged. There were over 1.5 million people starving in his country, and no money to feed them.

Paderewski did not know where to turn for help. He reached out to the US Food and Relief Administration for help.

The Head was a man called Herbert Hoover- who later went on to become the US President. Hoover agreed to help and quickly shipped tons of food grains to feed the starving Polish people. A calamity was averted.

Paderewski was relieved. He decided to go across to meet Hoover and personally thank him. When Paderewski began to thank Hoover for his noble gesture, Hoover quickly interjected and said, “You shouldn’t be thanking me, Mr. Prime Minister. You may not remember several years ago, you helped two young students go through college in the US. I was one of them.”

The World is wonderful place. What goes around usually comes around.

World will be of NO MAN-2

World will be of NO MAN-2.

Woman what we shall say about her, beautiful creation of God, life itself is nothing without a woman.

Her life is divided in parts/stages; nothing is complete for her.

Her birth is sign of burden in under developed eastern regions, in Rajasthan people literally kill baby girl.

In her teenage/early youth, she is more often taken as “colorful butterfly”, everyone get attracts towards her colors, wants to hold her as they can, don’t realize, her colors will wipe away with that harsh touch.

If she does not want to involve with someone, youth says “she doesn’t have taste, she is nuts” n if she involves, parents/brother says, “don’t be characterless”, if she leaves her love or forced to leave for better match, “she is bitch”, and if boy leaves her for his career, “it is required to do so”. Once they are settled in their career, then they lookout to new colorful and beautiful butterfly for them, to satisfy their ego, and flaunty show to others “see I own this beautiful lady”.

If she does not want to marry or things don’t work for her, she becomes sign of barrier/hurdle for her own family, and if she marries with wrong person, she has been forced to live miserable life.

Dowry is the price which her family pays to relief from her and other takes as privilege to accept her for life time.

For his hubby, his first priority is his family, and she is asked to leave parents/relatives for one person who takes her wherever he wants, after all he has all rights on her.

She gives birth to new lives, at the cost of her health, her life; and after that; her hubby says, “You have lost your figure!! Workout”, and if she does not want to go for family “she is cruel; she has no heart”.

If she sacrifices her career for better upbringing of kids, kids says “mom u don’t understand me, as u sits at home and world has changed” if she carries her career, kids says “her mom doesn't love them n have no time for them”, and they hate her; in the whole life she becomes cook and house keeper for kids/hubby, she is the one who takes care of them and still they have their own “priories and life" - .

She takes kids as sign of strong bond with hubby, and hubby says “she doesn’t have time for him, nor she is attracted anymore”, let search other “butterfly for leisure”.

If she is non fertile she is called “banjh”, but what if man is “non fertile” do we have any word for him in our “dictionary”, she has been expected to take care of his dignity/respect in social, If she could not deliver “son”, man runs after other woman for his “generation”.

At last some other butterfly “daughter in law”, comes to replace her in her home and she battle for her existence; --- “home” for which she paid price as a wife, daughter in law even as mom for whole life; at the end she realizes this fact; "she has no home", nor as daughter, sister, wife, mom, daughter in law.

The story ends, and no one knows what was going in this soul, which unfortunately does have an “heart”, and man says “it is difficult to understand woman”, how they will, have they “thought of her” or put up “effort and time” to understand her, they have always taken her as “granted” in all relations, as a brother, father, husband, son, now new emerge as “boss” even in her corporate life as well..

She has three births in one life or may be more; one is “biological”, second when she “marries”, third when she passes from “creation process”. It’s time to think- think – If woman is WO!!! MAN – then world will be of NO MAN.

World will be of NO MAN.-1

World will be of NO MAN.-1

Woman’s primary need is “Security”, secondary is “Respect”, they often misinterpret meaning of word security. According to them money is sign of security; they often push back their emotional need. As we all know money attracts women, in fact we say “Woman run after money”, but the question is why they do so?

Woman has the desire/need to maintain themselves, they are look conscious, status conscious, because their outlook appeal men towards them, which fulfilled their basic psychological need, and this materialistic cycle needs money, here raise need of money for woman; secondly they are financially dependent on their partner (most of women were earlier even today), because nature has created them like this “to rely on” , that makes money basic source of security, those who understand themselves & their real urge they doesn’t chase it, we had come across such examples. There are women who choose to live with average earning man whom they love & they live happily, for them emotional needs to be fulfilled first, and there are women who are not happy being a wife of billionaire, what makes them to chase someone else, if money is everything for woman.

When women are beautiful, then they have queued of men chasing them, and if they are not??

Women becomes symbol or other name of “beauty”, what is their beauty

Long hairs

Fair complexion

Sharp features

Expressive eyes

Sweet voice

Good outline

How she presents/behaves (new emerge)

Is that all about woman, why they have been rated on parameter of their looks, think on this, if today I am beautiful what is my contribution, and if not then, what is my fault, I have not created myself, what kind of complexion, eyes, physics I’ll be having will totally depend on the combination of multiple genes and amount of mutation takes place if so, and that becomes our value stage for world, and world makes us to face them on their parameters.

Chap on matrimony sites, first requirement for ideal partner, she should be good looking, is only good looking girls has right of marriage, if it so? Then god is doing mistake by creating average looking gals.

She should be of good character, what are the measures to measure her character and why they should do?

When they have been differentiating on some materialistic parameters then they become materialistic, and then phrase “Women run after the money” exists.

When we talk about woman we can’t leave discussing role of men in her life, she hold man within her "WO"MAN", man is an integral part of woman’s life even her identities are dependable on them, first; father’s name is required later husband’s name. Man is an undetectable part of her life whether they become bitter half or better half it varies from story to other.

Woman and man’s relationship has various dynamics.

Men are known to run after “BEAUTY”, for them women are more like a project (desire)-- learn (know her), get into (have her), get familiar (entertain himself), and then move to next project.

Women need ample/own time to rely on any man who enters in her life, to develop trust level, to feel warmth, which lead into bond/relation, it is bit slow process in case of woman; but for man, it is opposite-- they attract very fast, rush to know her, to make relationship with her, without understanding the profile/need of her. When they don’t get desired response as per their expectations, they lose charm and move towards other, and that is the time, when woman overpass period of trust, when she want to relying on him, trusting him, by the time he is already mentally moved away from her, and the story ends before it starts.

I couldn’t understand, why man has high ego, and they live with it all the time, ego for what, being a man, but then they have to be either gender.

Three supreme powers, BRAHMA DEV, VISHNU DEV and LORD SHIVA, who are responsible for this world’s management for three different profile, their better halves has the equal supportive role in this management, and we all worship them.

BRAHMA DEV, known to write our fate, MA SARASWATI, blessed us with the power of knowledge (co line part)

VISHNU DEV, responsible for our nurture, MA LAXMI, blessed us with power of money (dependable profile)

LORD SHIVA, responsible for to put an end, MA PARWATI, play or develop roles to make this happened. (Lead each other)

Then why this world is “men oriented” world, why all the desires and command is in men’s hand, why here is not equal, supportive, constructive role for both of them. Why Indian woman has to call her hubby “Aap” and he calls her “Tum or Tu”.

When this woman is “SHIV KI SHAKTI”, why she is so helpless today? Aren’t we spoiling the nature’s balance?