The Creation and Its
Cause
According to
Brihadaranyaka Upanishad
In the beginning,
this universe was the self alone, in the shape of a person. He reflected and
saw nothing else but His self. He first said: "I am He." Therefore He
came to be known by the name I (Aham). Hence, even now, when a person is
addressed, he first says: "It is I," and then says whatever other
name he may have. And because He, before
the whole group of aspirants, burnt all evils, therefore He is called
Purusha. He who knows this verily burns up him who wishes to be Viraj in
advance of him.
He was afraid.
Therefore people still are afraid when alone. He thought: "Since there is
nothing else but myself, what am I afraid of?" Thereupon His fears were
gone; for what was there to fear? Assuredly, it is from a second entity that
fear arises.
He was not at all
happy. Therefore a person even today is not happy when alone. He desired a
mate. He became the size of a man and wife in close embrace. He divided this
body into two. From that division arose husband (pati) and wife (patni).
Therefore, as Yajnavalkya said, the body before one accepts a wife is one half
of oneself, like the half of a split pea. Therefore this space is indeed filled
by the wife. He was united with her. From that union human beings were born.
Hinduism regards man
and woman as the two halves of the eternal being, each constituting a vibrant,
existential part, quite incomplete in itself. In the Brihadaranyaka Upanishad,
Prajapati, the primordial God, divides himself into two-man and woman, the
symbols of cosmic polarity deriving sustenance from the same source.
In the cosmic scheme
man represents Purusha (the Person, Spirit) and woman Prakriti (Nature, Primal
Matter), both of whom unite to keep the world going. So goes the Vedic verse:
‘I am He, you are She; I am song, you are verse; I am heaven, you are earth. We
two shall here together dwell becoming parents of children’.
An Equal Half
The Hindu woman as life partner has a fourfold character: she is
ardhangini , one half of the her husband, metaphorically speaking; sahadharmini
, an associate in the fulfillment of human and divine goals; sahakarmini , a
part to all her husband’s action and sahayogini , a veritable cooperator in all
his ventures. Husband and wife together are called dampati , joint owners of
the household, sharing work in terms of their biological, psychological and
individual dharma . The former provides the seed bija and the latter the field
ksetra for its fructification, so that humans could be perpetuating in the
cosmic process of evolution. Both have the joint responsibility of helping
their children grow in all respects, but the contribution of the wife is always
immense.
As life partner the
Hindu woman has equal right to participate in religious right to participate in
religious rites and ceremonies; in fact, certain sacrifices like the Sita
harvest sacrifice, the Rudrayaga for
suitable sons-in-law or the Rudrabali
sacrifice for material prosperity are performed by women alone. Hindu lawgivers
like Gobhila and Asvalayana ordain that no ritual or sacrifice can be complete
(sampurna ) without the presence of the wife. Even Rama had to order for Sita’s statue in gold to
make up for her absence during this asvamedha sacrifice. In the Ramayana , Rama’s mother Kausalya offers oblations to
the fire god Agni and Tara performs the
Svastyayana ritual for the success of her husband Bali against Sugriva .
Women of those days were quite learned in the Vedic lore.
Draupadi was a brahmavadini and Tara an adept at reciting mystic
syllables. Oghavati, Arundhati and Sulabha possessed a thorough knowledge of
the Vedas and imparted religious knowledge even to Rishis. The spiritual
attainments of Savitri and Anusuya have become legendary. In the Brihadaranyaka
Upanishad one meets women of wisdom such as Maitreyi and Gargi. The former
abandoned wealth for wisdom and the latter entered into a debate with sage
Yajnavalkya at the court of King Janaka. Much later, Bharati, the wife of
Mandana Misra, carried forward the tradition by acting as judge in the
philosophic debate between her husband and Shankaracharya. When she found her
husband losing the debate, she emphatically told Shankaracharya that his
victory would be complete only if he could defeat her, since she constituted
her husband’s better half.
Where women are honored,
there the gods are pleased; but where they are not honored, no sacred rites
yield rewards,. ‘Offspring, (due performance of) religious rites, faithful
service, the highest conjugal happiness and heavenly bliss for the ancestors
and oneself depend on one’s wife alone’.
Manu declares that
the perfect man is one who constitutes a trinity made up of his wife, himself
and their offspring. The wife being a gift from the Gods, she ought to be
supported to the end of her life. If Manu points out of seductive nature of
women, he is equally unsure of the unbridled passion of men. He advises that
wise men must not be in the company of even their own mothers, sisters or
daughters in a lonely place, for they may deviate from the right path! Manu regards woman as a precious unit of the
family and of society but denies them absolute freedom due to their physical
vulnerability. He, however, distinguishes between the noble and virtuous
and the degenerate women, and like other smrtikaras, criticizes those who are
faithless, fickle, sensuous, immodest, quarrelsome and loose. ‘Day and night
women must be kept in dependence upon males and if the attached themselves to
sensual enjoyments they must be kept under one’s control’. Manu prescribes
capital punishment for killers of women, exempts pregnant and old women from
paying fines and suggests that as mater of courtesy, they should be given
precedence when crossing the road.
He meant thereby that
they were not different from each other. The Hindu scriptures lay emphasis on
harmony between husband and wife that is so essential for family peace and
prosperity. Harmony requires understanding, which can only be among equals. In
the Rig Veda, the couples jointly pray: ‘May all Devas and Apas unite our
hearts. May Matarisva, dhata, Destri all bind us close.’
The highest duty of
man and wife says Manu, is to be faithful to each other. While the supreme duty
of the husband is to safeguard his wife, to care for her needs and necessities,
and to keep her happy with gift and presents, the wife is expected to be pious
and chaste, sincere and faithful to her partner, gentle, suave, skilled and
sweet- tongued.
Although the concept
of pati-paramesvara (regarding one’s husband as god) has suffered erosion in
the wake of women’s empowerment, respect for the husband continues, as is
evident from the observance by Hindu women of such traditional vows as Vata
Savitri, Haritalika and Karka Chaturthi - all aimed at a long and happy
conjugal life.
Nowhere do the
accredited Hindu scriptures ordain that women should be abused, disgraced,
chastised without reason or divorced in ordinary circumstances. Yet
expectations from women as life partners have been many and varied. The best
female partner, according to a popular Sanskrit adage, is one who renders
advice like a minister, obeys like a maidservant, feeds like a mother, pleases
like the nymph Rambha, acts as a veritable companion, and has the forbearance
of Mother Earth.
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