Where there is love, there is pain.

Love is a hope. Love is a cure. Love is healing but wrong understanding against love has lead to the phrases like Love is a curse. Love is a pain. There is no cure for love. It is easy to fall in Love. It is difficult to keep your love going. There is lot of pain in Love. The pain is not because of Love but More so because of Lack of Love. Misunderstanding in Love causes more pain. Everyone who has loved has to go through the pain. The separation, the misunderstanding, the mistreatment in Love are more painful.

This and many problems can be healed & cured by learning the following

1)    Grief management in case of Separation.

2)    Trying to listen to others in case of Misunderstandings.

3)    Improving your behavioural aspect of the personality in case of Mistreatment by others.

4)    Imitation in Love is dangerous many times the person is not in Love. But the ego of the person is so high that they imitate Love.

5)    Fear in Love is a dangerous element. This fear has killed many Love relationships. Some people fall in love out of fear.

6)    Confusion in Love is a common factor. I am in love with you are not. You are in Love I am not. This is a common factor rarely does it happen that your love finds love in the other heart. Hence the song " जाने वो कैसे लोग थे जिनको प्यार से प्यार मिला..................."

7)    Melancholy is also a great issue in Love. The other person is cruel and you are enjoying the cruelty of that person. You fall in love because you are enjoying the cruelty in love. You fall in Love because the other person is cruel. Do not enjoy the bad treatment given to you by the other person.

8)    You have an urge in you to help the other person .You fall in love with someone who is in pain. You are naturally drifting towards someone in pain. You want to feel you have helped someone in pain. This is not Love, You are actually looking out for a opportunity to be a good person who can be of help to others but this is not Love. This is charity. The other person allowed you an opportunity to do charity.

9)    Expectation in Love is a huge killer of love. There are lot of expectation in Love and when your expectations do not find the right expression, by your partner, your love is killed.

10) There would be people who are not exposed to love at all till quite some age in their life. They do not understand love at all. You have to actually teach them to love.

11) Many people feel providing sexual gratification is Love enough. In avenge of sex they want everything in life from the other person. They call this as Love.

12) Maturity in thinking and understanding can take care of childhood infatuation, crush, adamant attitude of I need this, I want this. Many people claim "I get what I Want"

13) Most of the people in this world are actually looking at others just to feel desirable. If someone desires them they are all in it for that one element.

14) Most people misjudge opportunity to be attracted towards others. If the other person feels attracted towards them they feel it is Love. Attraction is not love.

15) The non starter: Many people are by nature caring towards others. This care others misjudge as Love.

16) Many are in it for just fun. They want to find some opportunity to spend some good time. With the opposite gender they are only flirting with the other person .The other person does not know the difference between flirting and love. He is in for a big shock.

17) Some people are curious about what actually is love. They want to fall in love. Since the friends they have a partner and they too want to find a partner. They are searching for a opportunity to express the Love they have within.

18) Some people are reachable .They do find quite a lot of people reaching out to them to be able to show the love they have.

19) Many people are in a denial mode. They feel attracted toward someone .They know they are attracted but do not want to acknowledge the attraction .This is typical Indian problem immediately they would start calling the person bhaiyaa भैया or sister. They change the love and attraction they have as brotherly and sisterly love.

20) There is only one solution to all the problems in LOVE. "TRUTH".

21) Find the truth; be truthful to your feelings. Be honest. Express your honest feelings. Convey your feelings. Do not be confused. Do not fear rejection if you have expressed and rejected the problem is not yours. If you have not expressed the problem remains with you. Love you have expressed need some time from the other person to be reciprocated. The other person has to think over .Has to find attraction within himself or herself. When you have expressed give the other person enough time. Most of the time a long rope works and sometimes a ultimatum works. The other person is dragging the matter too long.

22) Sharing your problems: The greatest problem of Love is .You would have problem with your love and you cannot share this problems with others. It is like when you have boils on your private parts, you cannot show it to others is what someone told me. The boils needs cure but you cannot show it to others. Even to show it to a doctor you would need courage enough.

23) Many women who are married to business men find negotiation with them difficult. This people are so practiced in negotiation that they do not lose the negotiation with the women in the home. This women get the feeling they are being dominated kinds. Were as it is actually they are losing in negotiation every time. They should buy a book on how to be a good negotiator and try to match the negotiation skills.

24) Silence and patience are great tools to understand love.

When you build your love on many fragile arguments and basis, it is going to cause you many pain. It is said that "Love has no cure". This is not a truth. Love in fact has lot of potential to Heal. It is lack of love which is the problem. With right attitude we can correct the many wrongs in our love life. Keep trying. Love has the capacity to heal you.