15 Things You Should
Give Up For Happier Life
This
is indeed a brilliant article and needs to be read again and again ...
Here
is a list of 15 things, which, if you give up on them, will make your life a
lot easier and you'll feel much, much happier. We hold on to so many things
that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering and instead of letting
them all go and allowing ourselves to be stress-free and happy, we cling on to
them.
Well,
not anymore. Starting today, we will give up on all those things that no longer
serve us, and we will embrace change. Ready? Here we go!
1. Give up your need to
always be right.-- There
are so many of us who can't stand the idea of being wrong wanting to always be
right even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of
stress and pain for us and for others. It's just not worth it. Whenever you
feel the 'urgent' need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong,
ask yourself this question: 'Would I rather be right, or would I rather be
kind?' What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?
2. Give up your need for
control.-- Be willing
to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and
around you situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones,
co-workers, or just strangers you meet on the street just allow them to be.
Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much
better will that make you feel. 'By letting it go, it all gets done. The world
is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond
winning.'
3. Give up on blame.-- Give up on your need to blame others
for what you have or don't have, for what you feel or don't feel. Stop giving
your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.
4. Give up your
self-defeating self-talk. Oh my. --How
many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and
repetitive self-defeating Mindset? Don't believe everything that your mind is
telling you especially if it's negative and self-defeating. You are better than
that. 'The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however,
it becomes very destructive.'
5. Give up your limiting
beliefs about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. --From now on, you are no longer going
to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread
your wings and fly! 'A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea
that holds the mind.'
6. Give up complaining.--
Give up your constant
need to complain about those many, many, many things people, situations and
events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy;
no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It's not the
situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at
it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.
7. Give up the luxury of
criticism.-- Give up
your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you. We
are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all
want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want
something, and something is wished by us all.
8. Give up your need to
impress others.-- Stop
trying so hard to be something that you're not just to make others like you. It
doesn't work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that
you're not, the moment you take of all your masks, the moment you accept and
embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.
9. Give up your
resistance to change.-- Change
is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make
improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your
bliss, embrace change don't resist it. 'Follow your bliss and the universe will
open doors for you where there were only walls.'
10. Give up labels.-- Stop labelling the things, people or
events that you don't understand as being weird or different and try opening
your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open. The highest form of
ignorance is when you reject something you don't know anything about.'
11. Give up on your
fears.-- Fear is just
an illusion, it doesn't exist you created it. It's all in your mind. Correct
the inside and the outside will fall into place. 'The only thing we have to fear
is fear itself.'
12. Give up your
excuses.-- A lot of
times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing
and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck and lie to
ourselves, using all kind of excuses that 99.9% of the time, are not even real.
13. Give up the past.-- I know, I know. This one's hard.
Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future
looks so frightening. But, you have to take into consideration the fact that
the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are
now longing for the past that you are now dreaming about was ignored by you
when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do
and enjoy life. After all, life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear
vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.
14. Give up attachment. --This is a concept that, for most of
us, is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too (it still
is), but it's not impossible. You get better and better at it with time and
practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things (and that doesn't mean
you give up your love for them because love and attachment have nothing to do
with one another. Attachment comes from a place of fear, while love well, real
love is pure, kind, and selfless; where there is love there can't be fear, and
because of that, attachment and love cannot co-exist) you become so peaceful,
so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be
able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.
15. Give up living your
life to other people's expectations.--Way
too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their
lives according to what others think is best for them; they live their lives
according to what their parents think is best for them; to what their friends,
their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best
for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy
with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people's expectations, that
they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what
they want, what they need and eventually, they forget about themselves. You
have one life this one right now you must live it, own it, and especially don't
let other people's opinions distract you from your path.
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